A Little Bit of A Lot...

Yoooooooo!

It's T.R. McKnight back from a looooooong hiatus that was known campus-wide as Fall Break.

To be honest...school was the last thing on my mind. I feel like keepin' things real with this blog post, so that's exactly what I'm gonna do.

Plus, Mrs. G. said it's an open topic...so yeah. I'm feelin' like this is the perfect opportunity to show ya'll that my "realness" is "real."

So...what am I gonna talk about?

Men.

Yeah, you read it right. I'm talkin' about us dudes. The male sex. The testosterone-filled beings that provide 1/2 of the keys needed to populate this earth.

Why do I choose to talk about this? I don't know...but women always are sayin' something about us so I think I'll clear some things up.

Men Are Not Perfect

Let's just get that fact straight. No matter how many women look for or claim that they want a "Prince Charming," the fact of the matter is, he doesn't exist. Men are gonna have one flaw or another. Some of which, dare I say, are more heavier than others. But regardless...us men have some type of insecurity or weakness...and we need a good woman to help make that weakness "not so weak."

In saying that...us men are gonna need a lot of patience and understanding. Learning how to develop that is key in understanding how we work. All men operate and function differently, but there are many similarities embedded within us that it's scary. I'm being honest. Once you figure out some of those similarities (which I will not describe because then it would take all of the fun out of discovering them.)

I will say that if a man does dirt...his tracks are more easier to follow. I will say that women are the more conniving sex, only because they are more adept at hiding their tracks if/when they go behind one's back. This is a proven fact. The most successful and happiest marriages could go through a period of infidelity that the man wouldn't even be aware of. Yes, women, I believe that you are the craftier sex. But just as men aren't perfect, women aren't perfect either. But this post is about men, right? So let's get back with the program.

Men Have Needs, Too.

Contrary to popular beliefs, men actually have more intricate needs as opposed to some surface-level beliefs of food and pleasure. I will admit that us guys are a little more harder to understand when it comes to emotions...but once you get to the root of it...we're really not that hard to analyze. Men tend to find ways to cover up their insecurities with ego and status among other males, which is normal, but at the same time...it doesn't matter if a man is at the top of his game or at the bottom of the totem, he'll have his days where he's down.

It's important to keep in mind that our needs vary. There are times when we are open and times when we are not-so-open. It's understandable. At the same time, however, men do need an outlet to open up to. Sometimes it's a brother (figuratively or literally), or someone relatively close, like a really good friend of any gender. It doesn't take a lot for a man to confide in a woman, but in order to obtain that, he must first know that she is truly trustworthy.

Men Communicate Differently

Most men are not avid or longwinded talkers, save for some like myself. But even with that handful, we're not the ones to go into too much detail about a specific topic of our day, as opposed to hitting the highlights of the entire day as a whole. I will say that if something of interest captures our attention, then we'll be more inclined to expound on it, but not always. Men do talk, and more so than just grunts and grumbles. Just give us time. We'll come around eventually. The LAST thing that a woman should do is nag or bug. That only pushes us away. It's an eventual killswitch. One of the keys in understanding how we communicate is to observe how we operate.

Men are more physical in the field of communication. Some women often wonder why male athletes slap each others butts on occasion. It's not necessarily homosexual (even though I do feel that it could be done away with), but more so a sign of encouragement, appreciation, or motivation. I use this example because it's common amongst males, yet rare amongst females. I've heard women who have said that they wouldn't go as far as to touch another woman's rear to encourage, motivate, or show her appreciation for her on the court/field.

The fact of the matter is, men communicate through gestures, hand motions, body position and language, as well as other physical expressions. Men are innately designed to be "hands-on," and that trait will never change, unless there really IS something in the water...

To be continued...